Talk to people. It's almost like dating. You have to see if you like that person right? Or why would you waste your time talking to someone. I could be at a party and know only the person throwing it and make 5 friends. I can talk, when I want to. I can also listen too. ACTIVELY.
Find something in common. So people who tend to be friends, tend to have things in common. I am from up north, and I tend to gravitate to people who are from the mid-west. Now I am not saying ALWAYS. It's just easy to relate to. I do know some people from the South. Even some who were born in Texas. You can pick these people out right away. They have a draw to their speech and they tell you that Texas is the greatest country ever. But this person could also go to Asia concerts with you too. It really doesn't matter, but having things in common makes it easy. Maybe your favorite phrase is, "SUCK IT." Maybe their favorite phrase is the same. Bond!!
Make a Connection. Ask for that person's number, face-book, twitter account, email, WHATEVER. Pick one. If you like this person, and you want to get to know them, then you have to make contact.
CALL the person. What? I know, what a concept. How are you going to make a friend if you don't make plans? Bingo. Make some plans. Go for coffee, a cocktail, a movie. It's easy. I swear.
You have a new friend. So friendship works 2 ways. You have to call and they have to call. I find this to be a MUST. Now, I am going to tell you a few other things about friendship that you will need to know once you make a friend.
Just because you don't talk daily, it doesn't mean you don't have a friend. I have an old roommate from college and I can go 6 months without talking to her. But when she calls, or when I call, it's like we have never been apart. We catch up on each other's lives. We always call on each other's birthday and send a gift. While we aren't on the phone, I type and SNAIL mail her letters. She loves this. I love to write them. She says she always sits, and laughs and then emails me. A friend will get mad at you. No body is perfect right? I mean sometimes, even I do dumbass things. Now let me clarify a little bit. There are friends, that you have a connection with, and then there are the top 5. The top 5 is the people in your close circle. You talk the most, and you probably see them the most. They are the ones you call when you are sad, call when you wreck your car, and call when you want to stab someone at work just because. I always have a top 5. Now some people move in and out of the top 5, but at any given time I have a top 5. If you want to test that top 5. Call them when you REALLY need them, and see what happens.
This is the part where I tell you what is supposed to happen!!!
What should happen is they drop whatever, and come to your aid. They drag you out of the house for a pedicure. The fly to Kentuckana at the drop of a hat. They text and call you to make sure you aren't hanging from the ceiling fan. They take you out for a cocktail or 10, but best of all, they ARE THERE when you need them. Hands down. Have a crisis and you will see who stands next to you.